January 27, 2019

Why I’m making this year the year of new friendships

Why I’m making this year the year of new friendships | lucy-cole

I’ve decided, 2019 is going to be the year of new friendships. I started the year with very little goals – I’m happy with where I am right now. Sure, there might be a few lifestyle changes like gyming more and drinking more water (doesn’t everyone want that anyway?!) but generally, I don’t have any goals I’m aspiring too.

So I’ve decided to focus on something new this year – making new friendships. I’ve never been that great at meeting new people – I’m not confident so unless somebody speaks to me first I probably won’t say a word. Putting me in a room of people I don’t know is my worst nightmare, and this is something that I really realised when I was at university. I went to university with this expectation that I’d be this young, outgoing and charismatic girl, and although I was on some occasions (especially when I’d had a few drinks), I found myself hiding in my shell most of the time. Fortunately for me, I found some good friends through my netball team who stuck by me until I was comfortable enough to show my real self.

That’s the thing with me – I feel like until I know somebody well, I’m not really ‘me’. It takes me a while to get to know people, and I like to read them for a few months before opening myself up. I’m not sure why – I guess it’s a kind of protective mechanism, I always fear the worst. Even since starting my job, I’ve been told I was ‘too quiet’ to start with – which is completely true. It’s taken me a good few months to settle in and be who I am.

Going back to making friends, university, although still very challenging at times, was clearly easier than it’s going to be now, now I’m in full time work and not meeting new people every day. I’m in my twenties now and I know it’s going to be a lot harder to make new friends. That’s why I want to give it a go this year.

The beauty of being a blogger is that I chat to so many wonderful ladies everyday online – something that a lot of people aren’t so lucky to have. I’ve got hundreds of potential real-life friends at the tip of my fingers, and that’s something I want to make the most of this year.

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Another wonderful thing about blogging is that you have a reason to meet people. We all have a common interest. I’m hoping to use this to help me meet some wonderful gals this year. Rather than feeling a bit odd asking for pals (#despo for a mate), I can ask to shoot photos with some bloggers. Meeting new people can make me anxious, and often I’d put it off but going for a photo shoot makes it that little bit easier – you’re both getting something out of it and there’s a goal out of meeting. There’s no awkward pressure of ‘we’ve got to get along here’. If we get along – bloody brilliant, if we don’t, then that’s cool too.

I guess what I’m trying to say here is I don’t want to be a lonely twenty-something year old in years to come with only Jamie and 100 cats to hang out with (although it’s arguable that this is possibly the best hang-out ever). It’s time I put on my big girl boots, put myself out there and made some new bezzies. Who’s with me?!

Lucy x