Dealing with homesickness at university

Wednesday, 3 February 2016



All my life I knew I wanted to go to university, and after finally starting last September I can safely say I really underestimated how hard I was going to find it being away from home, despite only being a 40 minute train ride away. I cried a lot, I missed my family and boyfriend constantly and quite simply, I struggled! I'm now on my second semester at university and feeling a whole lot more positive about the next 3 years. I still get those days where I feel homesick, but I've slowly learnt how to deal with it. Here are my top tips!


  • Keep busy
This is my number one tip. When my parents first left me at uni, I wasn't sad because they'd left me with my whole room packed away in boxes than I needed to unpack, but as soon as I'd finished with nothing left to do, I started to feel a bit lonely. It's the same now! I'll tidy my room, go and do some shopping, or at last resort - do some work! Keeping your mind off things help.
  • Socialise - don't hide away in your room
This is something I definitely didn't get the hang of until this semester. If you have a communal kitchen or common room in your flat - go in there!! Last semester I'd sit and mope in my room, but being alone when you're lonely doesn't help!! 
  • Decorate your room to make it homely
Now this point was what I knew I wanted to do before even knowing where I was going to University! I'm a real photo girl, and I've covered my room in hundreds of happy moments that I know will make me smile, as well as positive quotes, artificial flowers and my favourite teddys. Having your room feel like home brings a lot of comfort.

  • Find a hobby - Join a sports team or society
I knew I wanted to join the Netball Squad when I started University, simply to stay fit, but I didn't expect it to have so many more positive impacts Having a hobby with a commitment to training gives you something to focus on but also gives you people to socialise with. If sport isn't your thing, maybe you could join a society, go for some walks or even start a blog! Anything that helps you breath a bit and let go of everything piling up inside will help.

  • Stop worrying
This is what I did the most last year. I worried about everything, everything that didn't need worrying about. Enjoy your time, make friends and make memories. There's no time for worries!


10 comments :

  1. Yes! I'm in my final year at University, and these points couldn't be more true! Always try & keep sociable, and I'd tidy my room too if I got lonely haha x

    www.beckieeschle.com

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    1. Glad you agree! It's so soothing haha. xx

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  2. I love this, I'm in my first year of Uni and I definitely agree with you. In my first semester I felt so down being away from my best friends and family but even just sitting in the common area helped with that x

    http://books-and-memories.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. It's tough being in a new place, I think I struggled to realise it all takes time!xx

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  3. Great tips! I lived at home during University (since I am already in the city). I found though that I would stay on campus a lot to study and socializing was a great way to boost confidence and get me out of my shell. Love these points!

    http://www.mintnotion.com

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  4. Socialising is a great tip! If I keep myself in my room I find myself getting more homesick than if I were out and distracted by friends!

    www.revuk.com/category/think-rev/

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  5. I didn't go to uni, but I can relate to these feelings from when I moved out from home! It is so hard at first, but gradually you get used to it, definitely agree about making your pace feel homely. xx

    Bethan Likes

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  6. Honestly, I had the exact same experience as you. I started uni in September and honestly, first term was a bit of a crappy experience. I didn't handle being away from my boyfriend and family well at all! But, like you, second term has been a lot more calm, I think I've just learnt to deal with it.

    I totally agree with all of these tips - especially the keeping busy bit! But I also have to remind myself to take some time to chill as well, otherwise I get too stressed haha.

    Bethany | Curly and Wordy

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  7. Definitely think it's just important to stay busy and make your new place your home! It can be tough moving out but is definitely worth it!

    Jasmin Charlotte

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  8. I'll be going to university next September so I'll keep your tips in my mind! funny thing I am going to study Geography! Do you enjoy what you learn as a geography student?
    xx
    Have a lovely weekend.
    Mathilde. http://flavietherese.wordpress.com

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